Making me say the words

"You're going to make me say the words" and "don't make me say the words" are part of my vocabulary.

I find I want to hang on to my words, my thoughts.. And not let people know. Not let them know my thoughts, my feelings, my... Anything.
While I like to think I wear my heart on my sleeve, I also play my cards close to my chest.
I'm easily hurt and feel for the hurting, yet I rarely tell anyone how I'm 'really' feeling.
Does that make sense?

Recently I've had some instances where I've said "you're going to make me say the words, aren't you?" 
These have been cathartic times, though.

Saying the words, giving the thoughts a voice, clears the head and even the heart.

Rather than a brewing and stewing over thoughts, getting them out means they can be rationalised, examined and dealt with.
They can be held up to the light. Like holding anything up to the light, this reveals the flaws, inconsistencies or stamps of quality otherwise unseen.

Some things are too hard to talk all about. Saying the words forces us to think about what we want to say. it makes us examine our concepts for truth, for the potential for inflicting hurt and for the rationality and clarity involved.
But at some time and in some way, if we're to move on, we need to give our thoughts words and names.
We can't heal an unknown symptom, we need to say the words.
We can't expect others to know how we feel, we need to say the words.

Writing the words is another way. Re-reading our words when we're not enmeshed in the emotions that confuse the issue can provide the same clarity. We can re-examine the thought process, the progression and the ... Sometimes sanity... Of our thoughts and rationalise them.

Finding the emotion in the thought helps.
Giving an emotion a name means you can deal with it.
So rather than just fretting, name the feeling. 
Anger, frustration, sadness. Joy, delight, humoured.

Break it into its basest form, so ... frustration may be jealousy or anger or impatience. 
Once you've got the word for the base emotion, you can move forward, because you can rationalise how to handle an emotion. 
You understand your remedy for fear, for anger, for jealousy. But you don't know a remedy for your unnamed emotion.
Try it on for size next time.
Actually think on your emotion, name it and see how you progress.

Words can hurt, they can heal and they can hinder. 
But sometimes they need to be heard.